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99 Thoughts for Small Group Leaders

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99 Thoughts for Small Group Leaders Youth Ministry Tips for Leading Your Small Group Copyright © 2010 Simply Youth Ministry group.com simplyyouthministry.com All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced in any manner whatsoever without prior written permission from the publisher, except where noted in the text and in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles and reviews. For information, e-mail Permissions at [email protected], or write Permissions, Group Publishing, Inc., P.O. Box 481, Loveland, CO 80539. Credits Authors: Joshua Griffin with Doug Fields Executive Developer: Nadim Najm Chief Creative Officer: Joani Schultz Editor: Matt McGill Copy Editor: Rob Cunningham Cover Art and Production: Riley Hall & Veronica Lucas Production Manager: DeAnne Lear Back Cover Photo Credit: www.alannamoine.com Unless otherwise indicated, all Scripture quotations are taken from the LIVE Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996, 2004, 2007. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved. ISBN 978-0-7644-4680-1 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 18 17 16 15 14 13 12 11 10 Printed in the United States of America.

To the best small group leaders in the world: my mom and dad, Bob and Teresa Griffin. - Josh

To those who sacrifice most for what I’m called to do... Cathy, Torie, Cody, and Cassie -Doug

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Thoughts 1-29
So you signed on to be a small group leader. Awesome! Here’s some quick ideas to get you started in your new role.


Thoughts 30-68
Small groups are best understood in the context of the whole youth ministry strategy. See how small groups are a key part of the discipleship process.


Thoughts 69-97
Small groups are messy. Here are some ways to help get inside students’ lives and what to do when you start dealing with tough stuff.


Thoughts 98-116
This section takes on common questions and offers practical advice to help your small group thrive.


Thoughts 117-149
This is the equivalent of a miscellaneous section. Stuff we wanted to share, but didn’t know where else to put it. Some of our favorite material is in this section.


Thoughts 150-162
Thank you for your contribution to the youth ministry at your church. When you’re ready to take a season off, here are some ways to leave ministry well.

**** We realize this book has more than 99 thoughts in it and it’s mostly because we didn’t know when to stop... and we didn’t want to change the title of the book. So, treat it like that little surprise you get when you discover a $5 bill in your pocket. ****

I have been in youth ministry for almost 20 years and I have never written a foreword for a book before. I am assuming I have never been asked because I am not that famous—nor do I consider myself an expert in this field. However, I am a youth worker who LOVES and BELIEVES in small group ministry. So, the opportunity to be a part of this book in some small way was really hard for me to pass up. There are two reasons I am ridiculously excited about the pages you are about to read: Reason one, I adore Josh Griffin and Doug Fields and their heart for small group leaders, and reason two, I am a small group leader and always want to learn more. Over the years, small groups have become my very favorite area of youth ministry. I have led 14 small groups in my youth ministry career, and I have come to realize that there is something so special about being a small group leader of teenagers. I love showing up each week to see “my” girls and to minister to them in a way that no one else does. Small group leading has been a source of total joy and has filled my ministry years with incredible memories.


That is why I am so excited for small group leaders to possess this book. Even though leading small groups has been awesome, it has not been without challenges. Between preparing a relevant lesson, dealing with the emotional needs of my students, and trying to be fun and creative, I often find myself looking in various places for inspiration and ideas. That is where this book comes in. This book is a great resource for all small group leaders to gain insight, gather ideas, and even stretch ourselves beyond what we think we can do in the lives of teenagers. As you work through the pages of this book, I encourage you to mark up the margins, make these ideas your own, and challenge yourself to try something new in your small group ministry. I have watched Josh and Doug pour their heart and soul into small group leaders week after week, and I am excited for you to get a taste of what our leaders get.

Katie Edwards Junior High Minister, Saddleback Church


Small groups are the backbone of our youth ministry. Sure, other programs may be more visible, so the casual observer would think that those might be the most important within a youth ministry. We love worship services and special events because they are the smiling face of our youth ministry. But, if small groups were a body part, they would be the vital backbone. They are central to the health of youth ministry life. Without small groups, our ministry would just be a show. At times, small groups can be a total pain. I’ve* had to sandpaper off the screwdriver marks left by a student carving his name into a coffee table in a host home. I’ve had to pay for broken couches out of an already dwindling youth budget. I’ve had to organize students into groups a hundred times before getting it right—only to completely change it a week later. But as much as small groups are challenging to organize, they are totally worth it. I’ve seen lives completely changed—one minute a teenager is walking away from God, and the next minute they’re embracing Jesus as Savior. I’ve seen students dive deeper into their faith and hold onto each other in vibrant spiritual community. 3

And that kind of stuff seems to make resurfacing coffee tables and couch repair pretty insignificant. The face of youth ministry will change over time, but good youth ministry will always include a team of caring adults pouring their lives into teenagers. Whoever put this book into your hands believes in you and believes you are going to make a difference in the lives of teenagers and wants to equip you for the journey. I know you can do it! Blessings to you on that journey!

Joshua Griffin
Youth Ministry Team, Saddleback Church morethandodgeball.com

* SPECIAL NOTE: I wrote this book alongside my good friend and mentor, Doug Fields. As we were writing, it became obnoxious to try to explain whose voice owned a feeling or an illustration. So, instead of writing, “I (Josh) love Star Wars” and “I (Doug) enjoy mountain biking,” we ditched our names and assumed you wouldn’t care and would rather have an easier read.


Throughout the book you’ll find boxes just like this. These are 140-character, TwitterTM-sized summaries or commentary on the thoughts. Use them as helps or tips that you can reference as you work with your small group.



So you signed on to be a small group leader. Awesome! Here’s some quick ideas to get you started in your new role.


hanks for committing to serve as a small group leader! Your faithful service will not go unnoticed. So what exactly are we dealing with here when we’re called, asked, or begged to be a small group leader of a teenager? Good question! Here is a simple profile of a typical teenager: He/she is quickly adopting the lifestyle of their parents—fast and furious. In our student ministry we recently asked students what the number one issue was in their lives; they answered, “Dealing with stress.” Chances are good that this answer wouldn’t have been the same 10 years ago.


With an already packed schedule, students are confronted with college earlier than ever before— the competition is fierce. On the morality front, not a minute passes without them being bombarded with twisted messages of sexuality from reality shows or musical acts, driving them to repetitively defend their values until, unfortunately, the time comes when many give up and give in.

On the technological front, typical students live and die by their cell phones—their thumbs can text faster than you can probably type. They can get movie times, find the nearest Starbucks®, and have access to pornography quicker than any time in history. Social networking is important—they’re online several times throughout the day. With the emergence of smart phones, being tethered to social media has gone from fad to epidemic. Recovery groups have formed to help deal with the resulting addiction. Another area competing to influence them are the many different worldviews that are out there. Their worldview is being shaped by people who advocate tolerance but shut down most expressions of faith. Teenagers are very interested in being spiritual but not necessarily being Christians. They are searching frantically for acceptance and consistency. They are growing up in a culture that encourages them to be politically correct at the expense of taking a stand for their faith. The war is raging, and they are as confused as a child faced with the question of whether they want to live with mom or dad after the divorce. And that’s where YOU come in! If you are young… things aren’t much different than when you were in school, but be careful not to be overconfident in your ability to relate to teenagers, because a lot has changed! 7

If you are older (over 30 is old to a teenager) … things might feel very different from when you were a teenager and you might be intimidated or feel out of touch. That’s normal, and actually, I prefer to have adults who are a little afraid—it reveals humility and dependance. These are good, healthy responses and will ready you to lead well. Here’s what hasn’t changed: No matter what your age is, teenagers still need love, acceptance, and care. They deeply desire to be known and desperately need to be wisely and lovingly guided to Jesus. So hear this: You are a conduit of hope. You are the leader. Who will guide teenagers to sorting through the mess they’re confronting? With God’s Spirit working through you, you can do it. You can do it well!



hat you are doing is a big deal—you will have to wear many different hats. Here are a few of the ones you will need to wear: You are… 1. A spiritual leader Your students are listening to your faith and watching your life. They are counting on you having a genuine (not perfect) walk with Jesus. Always know that your faith is lived out loud by your actions and not just your words. Even when you slip up, you show spiritual leadership in the way you humbly and correctly deal with mistakes and strive for God’s best.

2. A youth pastor/shepherd Your students are counting on you to notice when they’re gone. They expect you to call them out (in love) when they miss the mark on God’s standards and their intended commitments. They are waiting for that personal challenge. You are essentially 9

a pastor in this small group movement that God has been using to develop Christ-followers since the early church. You get to lead students into this deep-level relational and spiritual journey. Some days this will be seen as a wild stroke of good fortune; other days it will be an inescapable weighty albatross of death.

3. Part of the youth ministry team Your leadership can greatly help or cause crippling hurt to the student ministry of your church. Be a team player and remember that you are part of the whole. Your small group isn’t a separate youth group, it’s just one part of the overall strategy within a youth ministry.

4. An administrative wizard Just kidding. Just wanted to see if you’re still paying attention. Although it wouldn’t hurt if you could remember where your Bible is, how to send an e-mail or text, and what time your group meets. Leave all the administrative details to the person in charge.

5. A teacher Your students are counting on you to open God’s Word and help them learn how to discover and live by God’s plan. You don’t need to have a doctorate in theology, be a stand-up comic, or have a 10

Shakespearian stage presence. Your heart for God and your relationship with him will shine through your teaching. For it to shine through, you’ve got to have the light shining brightly within you. More on that later.

6. A relational guide The small group is all about community. You are the facilitator of those connections and relationships. Students come to group carrying a variety of emotional baggage (dejection, rejection, insecurity) and high on life (life happened to go well that day, closeness with God, eager to grow in their faith). Caring for a group of students who bring such a wide variety of circumstances with them will require your flexibility, sensitivity, and wisdom. After all, how do we rejoice with those who rejoice and mourn with those who mourn simultaneously? Experience will bring the answer. Hang in there!


Students are listening with their ears and watching with their eyes. Small group leaders teach and model God’s ways.

Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ. He loved us and offered himself as a sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God.

(Ephesians 5:2)

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