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GET YOUR EX BACK By: Dechen Lau http://webonlinedatingmatch.com
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So, it’s the end of the road for you and your partner AND You’re going crazy with the thought that it’s over...
You still love your partner & want to make up? Are you hurting so bad you can’t eat much? Keep thinking about what went wrong? Can’t think of anything else? Are you depressed? Can’t stand the thought of your partner with someone else? Does life seem like an endlessly dark night? Is it one emotional rollercoaster after another?
TAKE ACTION NOW
Almost every single person has gone through a break-up during their lifetime and have survived. Some moved on, while others got back together with their exes. If you’d like to know how to get your ex back, you’ve come to the right place. First, the good news, statistics confirm that 90% of all break-ups are reversible. What you need is an Action Plan, one that tells you what to do and what not to, so you don’t end up saying or doing things you’ll end up regretting. Or even, spoiling your chances of getting your ex back forever...
PLAN RIGHT
As you know, making a relationship work is hard work. Getting an ex back will also take some effort, but the good thing is you will now know exactly how to go about it. It’s all about making smart choices and taking the right steps... Steps that’ll take you closer to getting your ex back. Read on...
THE END OF AN AFFAIR... Relationships are fragile bonds that has to
be nurtured. Both partners need to be loving and caring to have a balanced relationship. Sometimes, problems come up and the balance gets shaken, creating a wide gap... If these problems are not addressed or taken care of, the relationship eventually breaks, leaving a mess of emotions and memories behind.. And usually, one partner still hoping to resolve things and get back together...
AVOID THESE MISTAKES... You're hurting, desperate, angry and lonely.
In this situation, it's very easy to make major blunders. And the worst mistakes are usually made within the first 72 hours of a break-up, so watch out! These are certain things you must steer clear of if you want to get your ex back: • DON’T Keep Any Contact – This will be difficult, but you need to break all ties with your ex. No calling, texting or emailing. Keeping away from your ex might seem counterproductive to getting him/her back, but this is one of the most important steps. You see, something’s obviously wrong between the two of you for it to have reached this stage. So, use this time as a break from each other and evaluate your relationship. Remember, it’s vital that each and every move you make should be constructive and well thought out. So, no reflex actions please. Time away from you will also give your ex more clarity. When he/she doesn’t hear from you, your former partner will keep wondering what you’re up to, how you’re doing and may even start missing you, thinking the break-up was a mistake. Let your ex realize your value... • DON’T Act Needy – This will only put your ex off and that's the last thing you want. Even if you feel that you can’t live without him/her, don’t show it. If you come across as desperate now, you’ll end up looking pathetic and your ex will lose respect for you. So, no crying, begging, or pleading please! Stand straight and stand tall. You can do it...
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DON’T Try To Make Your Ex Jealous – Playing the jealousy card could be one of the worst things you could do right now. It’s unlikely that he/she will believe that you’ve moved on, and once again, you might end up looking stupid in your own eyes and your ex’s. Worse still, what if your ex actually falls for the act and thinks you’ve moved on?! He/she might take it as a cue to move on too! AVOID Arguing – After a break-up, you’re high on emotion and there are so many unresolved issues. But if you want to get your ex back keep a cool head. You’ll just ruin any chance of a reconciliation if you act impulsively by giving your ex a piece of your mind or bickering over the past. If by any chance your ex calls and makes all kinds of allegations against you, try not to react. It will be extremely tough, but be cool. If both of you end up losing your heads, things that are bad will only get worse. Plus, in anger and out of deep hurt you might say a lot of mean and nasty things, things that you can’t take back once said. DON’T Try To Be Friends With Your Ex – Sometimes it’s great being friends with an ex, but mostly it doesn’t work out. Since you still love your ex and want to get him/her back, you don’t want to get stuck with the ‘just friends’ tag! You’re spoiling your chances. And what if your ex wants to be friends because it’s convenient or he/she wants to keep his/her options open? Do you want to be a convenience or an option?! Politely decline the offer of friendship saying you need some alone time, which you do... Plus, if you’re around as a ‘friend’, when will your ex get a chance to miss you and realize your worth? DON’T Have Sex With Your Ex – This is a complete NO-NO! It’s a disaster waiting to happen! See, you already know each other intimately, so there is always the temptation to have sex. And you’re comfortable sharing a bed, you know what turns the other on, but why would your ex want to come back to you if he/she is getting to have sex with you, that too, with no strings attached! DON’T Show Any Jealousy – If your ex left you for someone else or found someone right after the break-up, it must’ve hit your self-esteem real hard and the loneliness might be biting... But don’t show your vulnerability and certainly don’t criticize your ex’s new partner or look at him/her condescendingly, if you bump into them! It's human nature to feel jealous, but don’t let them know what you’re going through. Even if it’s killing you, be cool!
BE SURE THAT YOU WANT TO GET YOUR EX BACK... You
need to 100% positive about it. Don’t mistake grief for love or a desire to reunite. It’s normal to hurt after a relationship breaks... Give yourself a little time to be absolutely sure that you truly want to get your back. Think things through and once you’re sure, go for it! Don’t let anything hold you back... If you’re already sure, you’re on the right track – working according to an Action Plan! You know it’s sad, but the fear of not getting one’s ex back can make one do things that have the completely opposite effect of what one intended. We might keep telling an ex how much we love them or try to convince them that we’ve changed, so things will be different this time... Some of us even reach out to our ex’s family and friends out of desperation. And it all backfires. We just end up pushing our ex further away... But you know what? It’s not our fault. Nobody taught us how to handle relationships, so how should we know? Well, it’s time to know, to wake up and find out exactly what works and what doesn’t. Read up all there is to know about getting your ex back in this manual written by the master of relationships, Ryan Hall. This man won his ex back using a secret formula that’s he’s sharing in this very ‘Pull Your Ex Back’ manual! With a 90% success rate, Ryan promises that it’s more than possible to get your ex back, no matter how bad the situation… You just need to have the right approach. To find out more, log on to: www.pullyourexback.com
COPING ON YOUR OWN... You’ve just gone through a break-up, so be
good to yourself. Remember, it’s in your best interest to stay calm and give yourself a time-out from your ex. This is the perfect time to introspect and figure out what exactly went wrong... Why did the break-up happen? Were you in any way responsible? Did you do something that made your ex call it off? Or did your ex fall for someone else? If so, was there something lacking in your relationship that a third party could come between the two of you? No matter how painful, you need to get down to the bottom of it, because only when you know the reason will you be able to work on the issues that led to the split. It’s the only way to deal with the situation and learn from it... Use this time to honestly and objectively examine yourself and your former relationship, so when
you do get your ex back, you’ll know how to make the relationship stronger. Work on yourself, improve any shortcomings you might have. Being the only one working on a reconciliation is tough, but be strong. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t cry or grieve. It’s natural to... But after a point, you have to lift yourself up and be strong. Show your ex see that you’re doing just fine on your own. This itself is a great technique to make yourself more desirable in your ex’s eyes! It has the power to make your ex wonder if he/she made a mistake by breaking up... So, fake confidence if you have to!
• After spending some time alone, get out! Go out with friends, call them over for
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a chat. Start a dance class or take karate lessons! Do whatever it takes to make yourself feel good, except doing drugs or gulping alcohol! Even if you don’t feel like socializing, don’t stay alone at home feeling sorry for yourself. It’ll only make you feel worse. There’s a whole world out there, go out and be a part of it. Try and have some fun! This will not only take the load off your heart and mind for a while, your ex is bound to find out that you’re going out and he/she will wonder how come you’re dealing with the break-up so well? Does this mean you already over him/her? You’re sure to grab your ex’s ex attention this way! introspecting, if you feel that you changed for the worse during the relationship or you lost the qualities that got your ex attracted to you in the first place, then work on bringing those qualities back. But always be true to yourself. said that...’ ‘If only I had done that...’ ‘If only he/she never came between the two of us...’ You can’t change the past, you can only learn from it. Try and look at it as an experience to grow.
• And come what may, don’t fall into the ‘what if’ or ‘if only’ trap. ‘What if I had
THE ACTION PLAN – HOW TO GET YOUR EX BACK...
It’s all about preparation and human psychology. Now’s the time to work smart with your eye on the prize! You need a strategic Action Plan that has solid and practical advice you can follow with a cool head. Techniques you can use that will get your ex’s attention and make him/her eager to reunite with you. Use the power of the mind to get what your heart desires!
This might sound crazy but decide, affirm and picture yourself back with your ex. In your mind’s eye imagine you’re together, flesh this picture out with as much detail as possible. Morning and night affirm ‘I am back with (Name) and we are happy.’ Patiently and diligently repeat this positive affirmation and will it to happen. Believe that it will with all your heart and keep strengthening the image of your togetherness in your mind. And then, follow this step-by-step Action Plan and get your ex right back where you want him/her – in your arms:
HOW TO GET UR EX BACK... Step 1. Analyze what went wrong in
the relationship. Once you’ve go that figured out, that’s half the battle won! Be honest with yourself, even if you don’t like what you see. If you want to get your ex back you need to face up to reality and admit your mistakes, if any. Step 2. Work on yourself. Change what needs changing, whether it’s insecurity, jealousy, low self-esteem or anger issues. Read up on self-help books and ‘How to get your ex back’ articles, so that you’re equipped with all the information and tips you need. This greatly improves your chances of getting your ex back. If you’re looking for a sure shot formula of getting your ex back, download Ryan Hall’s manual ‘Pull Your Ex Back’. You can download it instantly and learn how to make simple changes in your way of thinking that’ll give you hugely positive results. This manual will put you in control like never before. There’s just about everything covered – from how to win your ex if he/she is already dating someone else to winning him/her back even if you cheated! This is your one-stop shop to relationships and repairing any love situation. Step 3. Break all ties. This is an all-important step. As mentioned earlier, maintaining no contact with your ex right after a break-up is the best thing you can do. Or you might end up saying or doing things that’ll ruin your chances of a reunion forever. You’re hurting, you’re angry, so give space and get some space. Take this time to reflect and cool down. This means, no text messages, calls or emails... Just disappear from your ex’s life! It’s your best bet to win him/her back and get over the initial shock of the break-up. Even your pain will pass quicker compared to if you were in touch. You’ll also
be more in control of your emotions after the ‘No Contact’ period is over and you’ll know where you stand when it comes to your ex. Plus, he/she is bound to value you more... Step 4. Build up your self-esteem. The trick is to develop on all fronts – physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. Get a makeover, go shopping for clothes, join a gym, learn yoga. When you feel good about yourself, you exude a certain confidence that will be noticed by others, as well as your ex when you finally do meet! So, don’t neglect your appearance. There’s nothing more sexy than confidence. And there’s always the possibility of common friends telling your ex know how good you’re looking these days!
Step 5. Stay calm if you bump into your ex. If you come across him/her for the first time after the split, both of you will probably be a little nervous. So, try to ease any awkwardness. Prepare yourself beforehand for this moment. Maintain eye contact and briefly make some small talk. Keep your ex guessing what’s up in your life. Be civil but not overly nice. Come across as confident and quickly move on! Don’t reveal anything. If your ex is with someone of the opposite sex, don’t show any emotion. Step 6. The Ultimate Trick! And now comes the real winner from relationship expert Ryan Hall, writer of the ‘Pull Your Ex Back Manual’! This single step will work on your ex’s psyche more than anything else! After a month’s gap, get in touch with your ex by email or SMS and write: "You were right about the breakup... I guess we do need space. Something wonderful happened recently. I guess when things happen they happen for a reason...You know what?" And leave the sentence hanging! This is the big trick. It will raise your ex's curiosity to the point that he/she might even call you! And this is where you use extreme caution. Do not take or return your ex’s call immediately. This is how and why it works: Your message should make you more desirable in your ex’s eyes, since you’re indirectly saying that you don’t need him/her anymore. This will bother your ex big time and should create a sense of loss. It’ll make him/her want you more than ever! Your ex will keep wondering how come you get over the relationship so fast? Does this mean the break-up didn't really bother you that much? He/she will find it difficult to believe that you got over them so fast! And he/she will go crazy wondering what this ‘wonderful new thing in your life’ is! It will make him/her fear that you might’ve found someone else... And the guy/girl who broke up with you will want to get your attention to find out more! Chances are that your ex will call. In that case, tell them that
you’ve got something really important you’d like them to know... Then hesitate and say: "Ummm! But I guess I shouldn't tell you...” And become quiet! Your ex will probably try to force you to reveal what’s going on, but hesitate some more and then say: : “Sorry, I don't think I should tell you... Got to go!” And hang up! If your ex was curious before, now he/she will be dying to know what you really wanted to say... And there goes his/her peace of mind! Now, this works since it’s human nature to desire or value what you can't have! Your ex is bound to call and fix a meeting...
Step 7. Meeting up with your ex. This is a critical part of getting your ex back. Meet for a cup of coffee at a casual venue that has no connection with your common past. Your ex will want to know what the ‘wonderful new thing’ in your life is, so go prepared with a valid answer – maybe you got a promotion recently or something new has happened in your family like your sister’s marriage or you’ve done something you’ve always wanted to and your ex is aware of that from when you were together as a couple, such as adopting a dog from a pound or getting your long hair cut real short... Make this ‘the new thing’ you were dying to tell your ex about! Use a happening that’s exciting enough and doesn’t look fake... And tell your ex you thought you shouldn’t tell him/her about it since you had broken up... At some point, your ex will probably bring up the topic of the break-up, admit your fault very calmly, if you feel you have contributed to the break-up. Your ex will appreciate your honesty, courage, fairness, as well as, the fact that you acknowledge why he/she left. Listen to what your ex has to say without interrupting. Keep the meeting short so your ex is left with a feeling of ‘unfinished business’... Let him/her make the first move, if any... Handled maturely, this will lay the ground for a reunion... Step 8. Sort things out. That one meeting should lead to more meetings. And finally, it should result in your getting your ex back! Once you’re back together, make sure to sit down and discuss the issues that led to the break-up. The idea is to avoid making the same mistakes again. There's no point getting back together only to break-up yet again over the same issues! Remember, no relationship can survive for long if you’re not
making an attempt to understand the other. Open and honest communication is critical. Both of you need to listen to each other’s point of view, respect it and work out solutions. Be patient with each other, learn to compromise and let certain things go... It takes a big heart to forgive and you have to put the ugliness of the break-up behind you in order to make a new beginning. After all, it’s all about starting afresh! All the best...
DEALING WITH A CHEATING EX... Cheating is the worst thing a
partner can do in a relationship. It breaks the trust and leads to a lot of pain and heart ache. Not to mention, what it does to the other’s self-esteem... But that doesn't mean it shouldn't or can’t be forgiven. There are many couples who have patched up after one of the partner’s cheated. If you were the cheating partner, you need to convince your ex that it was a mistake and you regret it. Of course, it will take time and a lot of effort before you can get your ex back into your life. You need to give your ex the space to deal with the fact that you were unfaithful and to cool down a little... Make sure you apologize genuinely, with your heart and soul. The next step is to try to convince your ex partner to listen to you. Apologize for what you have put him/her through and try to convince them that it’ll never happen again. You will find him/her untrusting, which is natural. The trust will have to be earned and rebuilt slowly. Ask your ex to give you the benefit of the doubt, a second chance... And be genuine in your attempts towards a reconciliation. In case your ex cheated on you, you need to seriously figure out if he/she truly deserves a second chance. It has to be a well thought out decision, one taken after some time has passed. And after a lot of advise from sensible, well wishing friends and family. Also do read up on articles related to this issue. When you do take a decision, make sure it’s done with a cool head and it’s a choice you won’t regret... If you decide to take your cheating ex back, make sure that he/she is truly repentant and is willing to
patiently and lovingly build up the trust again. You see, accepting your ex back is only part of the equation. The other part is, trying to forgive him/her and attempting to move on without dredging up the past during each and every argument. It won’t be easy, but some exes and some relationships are well worth the effort. And that’s for you to decide... All the best.
AFTER THE PATCH UP... Getting back together with your ex after a
break-up is great, but there are certain things you need to consider: Deal with each and every issue as a couple. Don’t avoid bringing up something. You can only start on a clean slate if there’s nothing weighing your mind down. • Avoid falling into the same patterns. Each relationship has certain routines or typical issues. Don’t repeat the same mistakes or fall into the same groove. • Work on the trust. No relationship can survive if one partner feels the need to keep checking up on the other. • Sincerely forgive the other for any past indiscretion and the pain it caused you. This can sometimes take a big heart and great effort, but it’s the only way of make things work... • Ensure mutual respect. It’s important to understand each other’s point of view and allow for differences in thinking and behavior. You’re not each other’s clone, so accept and make room for individuality. This also means respecting the other’s needs and desires, and fulfilling them to the best of your ability. • Give time to heal. It’s better to leave a wound alone and let it heal, instead of constantly picking at it... Once all issues have been discussed and amicably resolved, try not to keep bringing them up, especially if it’s concerning your partner’s infidelity. • Learn to be friends again! Sometimes, couples get so heavy, they forget to be friends and become ‘man and woman’... Don’t forget, you were friends first and that comes first.
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Start anew. Have fun together! Do things you used to love doing. And discover new things! Make sure there are light and happy moments. Rebuild the kind of life you want together. Oh! And don’t forget the make-up sex! There’s nothing better than good make-up sex! All the best! And congratulations on winning your ex back!
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So, it’s the end of the road for you and your partner AND You’re going crazy with the thought that it’s over...
You still love your partner & want to make up? Are you hurting so bad you can’t eat much? Keep thinking about what went wrong? Can’t think of anything else? Are you depressed? Can’t stand the thought of your partner with someone else? Does life seem like an endlessly dark night? Is it one emotional rollercoaster after another?
TAKE ACTION NOW
Almost every single person has gone through a break-up during their lifetime and have survived. Some moved on, while others got back together with their exes. If you’d like to know how to get your ex back, you’ve come to the right place. First, the good news, statistics confirm that 90% of all break-ups are reversible. What you need is an Action Plan, one that tells you what to do and what not to, so you don’t end up saying or doing things you’ll end up regretting. Or even, spoiling your chances of getting your ex back forever...
PLAN RIGHT
As you know, making a relationship work is hard work. Getting an ex back will also take some effort, but the good thing is you will now know exactly how to go about it. It’s all about making smart choices and taking the right steps... Steps that’ll take you closer to getting your ex back. Read on...
THE END OF AN AFFAIR... Relationships are fragile bonds that has to
be nurtured. Both partners need to be loving and caring to have a balanced relationship. Sometimes, problems come up and the balance gets shaken, creating a wide gap... If these problems are not addressed or taken care of, the relationship eventually breaks, leaving a mess of emotions and memories behind.. And usually, one partner still hoping to resolve things and get back together...
AVOID THESE MISTAKES... You're hurting, desperate, angry and lonely.
In this situation, it's very easy to make major blunders. And the worst mistakes are usually made within the first 72 hours of a break-up, so watch out! These are certain things you must steer clear of if you want to get your ex back: • DON’T Keep Any Contact – This will be difficult, but you need to break all ties with your ex. No calling, texting or emailing. Keeping away from your ex might seem counterproductive to getting him/her back, but this is one of the most important steps. You see, something’s obviously wrong between the two of you for it to have reached this stage. So, use this time as a break from each other and evaluate your relationship. Remember, it’s vital that each and every move you make should be constructive and well thought out. So, no reflex actions please. Time away from you will also give your ex more clarity. When he/she doesn’t hear from you, your former partner will keep wondering what you’re up to, how you’re doing and may even start missing you, thinking the break-up was a mistake. Let your ex realize your value... • DON’T Act Needy – This will only put your ex off and that's the last thing you want. Even if you feel that you can’t live without him/her, don’t show it. If you come across as desperate now, you’ll end up looking pathetic and your ex will lose respect for you. So, no crying, begging, or pleading please! Stand straight and stand tall. You can do it...
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DON’T Try To Make Your Ex Jealous – Playing the jealousy card could be one of the worst things you could do right now. It’s unlikely that he/she will believe that you’ve moved on, and once again, you might end up looking stupid in your own eyes and your ex’s. Worse still, what if your ex actually falls for the act and thinks you’ve moved on?! He/she might take it as a cue to move on too! AVOID Arguing – After a break-up, you’re high on emotion and there are so many unresolved issues. But if you want to get your ex back keep a cool head. You’ll just ruin any chance of a reconciliation if you act impulsively by giving your ex a piece of your mind or bickering over the past. If by any chance your ex calls and makes all kinds of allegations against you, try not to react. It will be extremely tough, but be cool. If both of you end up losing your heads, things that are bad will only get worse. Plus, in anger and out of deep hurt you might say a lot of mean and nasty things, things that you can’t take back once said. DON’T Try To Be Friends With Your Ex – Sometimes it’s great being friends with an ex, but mostly it doesn’t work out. Since you still love your ex and want to get him/her back, you don’t want to get stuck with the ‘just friends’ tag! You’re spoiling your chances. And what if your ex wants to be friends because it’s convenient or he/she wants to keep his/her options open? Do you want to be a convenience or an option?! Politely decline the offer of friendship saying you need some alone time, which you do... Plus, if you’re around as a ‘friend’, when will your ex get a chance to miss you and realize your worth? DON’T Have Sex With Your Ex – This is a complete NO-NO! It’s a disaster waiting to happen! See, you already know each other intimately, so there is always the temptation to have sex. And you’re comfortable sharing a bed, you know what turns the other on, but why would your ex want to come back to you if he/she is getting to have sex with you, that too, with no strings attached! DON’T Show Any Jealousy – If your ex left you for someone else or found someone right after the break-up, it must’ve hit your self-esteem real hard and the loneliness might be biting... But don’t show your vulnerability and certainly don’t criticize your ex’s new partner or look at him/her condescendingly, if you bump into them! It's human nature to feel jealous, but don’t let them know what you’re going through. Even if it’s killing you, be cool!
BE SURE THAT YOU WANT TO GET YOUR EX BACK... You
need to 100% positive about it. Don’t mistake grief for love or a desire to reunite. It’s normal to hurt after a relationship breaks... Give yourself a little time to be absolutely sure that you truly want to get your back. Think things through and once you’re sure, go for it! Don’t let anything hold you back... If you’re already sure, you’re on the right track – working according to an Action Plan! You know it’s sad, but the fear of not getting one’s ex back can make one do things that have the completely opposite effect of what one intended. We might keep telling an ex how much we love them or try to convince them that we’ve changed, so things will be different this time... Some of us even reach out to our ex’s family and friends out of desperation. And it all backfires. We just end up pushing our ex further away... But you know what? It’s not our fault. Nobody taught us how to handle relationships, so how should we know? Well, it’s time to know, to wake up and find out exactly what works and what doesn’t. Read up all there is to know about getting your ex back in this manual written by the master of relationships, Ryan Hall. This man won his ex back using a secret formula that’s he’s sharing in this very ‘Pull Your Ex Back’ manual! With a 90% success rate, Ryan promises that it’s more than possible to get your ex back, no matter how bad the situation… You just need to have the right approach. To find out more, log on to: www.pullyourexback.com
COPING ON YOUR OWN... You’ve just gone through a break-up, so be
good to yourself. Remember, it’s in your best interest to stay calm and give yourself a time-out from your ex. This is the perfect time to introspect and figure out what exactly went wrong... Why did the break-up happen? Were you in any way responsible? Did you do something that made your ex call it off? Or did your ex fall for someone else? If so, was there something lacking in your relationship that a third party could come between the two of you? No matter how painful, you need to get down to the bottom of it, because only when you know the reason will you be able to work on the issues that led to the split. It’s the only way to deal with the situation and learn from it... Use this time to honestly and objectively examine yourself and your former relationship, so when
you do get your ex back, you’ll know how to make the relationship stronger. Work on yourself, improve any shortcomings you might have. Being the only one working on a reconciliation is tough, but be strong. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t cry or grieve. It’s natural to... But after a point, you have to lift yourself up and be strong. Show your ex see that you’re doing just fine on your own. This itself is a great technique to make yourself more desirable in your ex’s eyes! It has the power to make your ex wonder if he/she made a mistake by breaking up... So, fake confidence if you have to!
• After spending some time alone, get out! Go out with friends, call them over for
• While
a chat. Start a dance class or take karate lessons! Do whatever it takes to make yourself feel good, except doing drugs or gulping alcohol! Even if you don’t feel like socializing, don’t stay alone at home feeling sorry for yourself. It’ll only make you feel worse. There’s a whole world out there, go out and be a part of it. Try and have some fun! This will not only take the load off your heart and mind for a while, your ex is bound to find out that you’re going out and he/she will wonder how come you’re dealing with the break-up so well? Does this mean you already over him/her? You’re sure to grab your ex’s ex attention this way! introspecting, if you feel that you changed for the worse during the relationship or you lost the qualities that got your ex attracted to you in the first place, then work on bringing those qualities back. But always be true to yourself. said that...’ ‘If only I had done that...’ ‘If only he/she never came between the two of us...’ You can’t change the past, you can only learn from it. Try and look at it as an experience to grow.
• And come what may, don’t fall into the ‘what if’ or ‘if only’ trap. ‘What if I had
THE ACTION PLAN – HOW TO GET YOUR EX BACK...
It’s all about preparation and human psychology. Now’s the time to work smart with your eye on the prize! You need a strategic Action Plan that has solid and practical advice you can follow with a cool head. Techniques you can use that will get your ex’s attention and make him/her eager to reunite with you. Use the power of the mind to get what your heart desires!
This might sound crazy but decide, affirm and picture yourself back with your ex. In your mind’s eye imagine you’re together, flesh this picture out with as much detail as possible. Morning and night affirm ‘I am back with (Name) and we are happy.’ Patiently and diligently repeat this positive affirmation and will it to happen. Believe that it will with all your heart and keep strengthening the image of your togetherness in your mind. And then, follow this step-by-step Action Plan and get your ex right back where you want him/her – in your arms:
HOW TO GET UR EX BACK... Step 1. Analyze what went wrong in
the relationship. Once you’ve go that figured out, that’s half the battle won! Be honest with yourself, even if you don’t like what you see. If you want to get your ex back you need to face up to reality and admit your mistakes, if any. Step 2. Work on yourself. Change what needs changing, whether it’s insecurity, jealousy, low self-esteem or anger issues. Read up on self-help books and ‘How to get your ex back’ articles, so that you’re equipped with all the information and tips you need. This greatly improves your chances of getting your ex back. If you’re looking for a sure shot formula of getting your ex back, download Ryan Hall’s manual ‘Pull Your Ex Back’. You can download it instantly and learn how to make simple changes in your way of thinking that’ll give you hugely positive results. This manual will put you in control like never before. There’s just about everything covered – from how to win your ex if he/she is already dating someone else to winning him/her back even if you cheated! This is your one-stop shop to relationships and repairing any love situation. Step 3. Break all ties. This is an all-important step. As mentioned earlier, maintaining no contact with your ex right after a break-up is the best thing you can do. Or you might end up saying or doing things that’ll ruin your chances of a reunion forever. You’re hurting, you’re angry, so give space and get some space. Take this time to reflect and cool down. This means, no text messages, calls or emails... Just disappear from your ex’s life! It’s your best bet to win him/her back and get over the initial shock of the break-up. Even your pain will pass quicker compared to if you were in touch. You’ll also
be more in control of your emotions after the ‘No Contact’ period is over and you’ll know where you stand when it comes to your ex. Plus, he/she is bound to value you more... Step 4. Build up your self-esteem. The trick is to develop on all fronts – physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. Get a makeover, go shopping for clothes, join a gym, learn yoga. When you feel good about yourself, you exude a certain confidence that will be noticed by others, as well as your ex when you finally do meet! So, don’t neglect your appearance. There’s nothing more sexy than confidence. And there’s always the possibility of common friends telling your ex know how good you’re looking these days!
Step 5. Stay calm if you bump into your ex. If you come across him/her for the first time after the split, both of you will probably be a little nervous. So, try to ease any awkwardness. Prepare yourself beforehand for this moment. Maintain eye contact and briefly make some small talk. Keep your ex guessing what’s up in your life. Be civil but not overly nice. Come across as confident and quickly move on! Don’t reveal anything. If your ex is with someone of the opposite sex, don’t show any emotion. Step 6. The Ultimate Trick! And now comes the real winner from relationship expert Ryan Hall, writer of the ‘Pull Your Ex Back Manual’! This single step will work on your ex’s psyche more than anything else! After a month’s gap, get in touch with your ex by email or SMS and write: "You were right about the breakup... I guess we do need space. Something wonderful happened recently. I guess when things happen they happen for a reason...You know what?" And leave the sentence hanging! This is the big trick. It will raise your ex's curiosity to the point that he/she might even call you! And this is where you use extreme caution. Do not take or return your ex’s call immediately. This is how and why it works: Your message should make you more desirable in your ex’s eyes, since you’re indirectly saying that you don’t need him/her anymore. This will bother your ex big time and should create a sense of loss. It’ll make him/her want you more than ever! Your ex will keep wondering how come you get over the relationship so fast? Does this mean the break-up didn't really bother you that much? He/she will find it difficult to believe that you got over them so fast! And he/she will go crazy wondering what this ‘wonderful new thing in your life’ is! It will make him/her fear that you might’ve found someone else... And the guy/girl who broke up with you will want to get your attention to find out more! Chances are that your ex will call. In that case, tell them that
you’ve got something really important you’d like them to know... Then hesitate and say: "Ummm! But I guess I shouldn't tell you...” And become quiet! Your ex will probably try to force you to reveal what’s going on, but hesitate some more and then say: : “Sorry, I don't think I should tell you... Got to go!” And hang up! If your ex was curious before, now he/she will be dying to know what you really wanted to say... And there goes his/her peace of mind! Now, this works since it’s human nature to desire or value what you can't have! Your ex is bound to call and fix a meeting...
Step 7. Meeting up with your ex. This is a critical part of getting your ex back. Meet for a cup of coffee at a casual venue that has no connection with your common past. Your ex will want to know what the ‘wonderful new thing’ in your life is, so go prepared with a valid answer – maybe you got a promotion recently or something new has happened in your family like your sister’s marriage or you’ve done something you’ve always wanted to and your ex is aware of that from when you were together as a couple, such as adopting a dog from a pound or getting your long hair cut real short... Make this ‘the new thing’ you were dying to tell your ex about! Use a happening that’s exciting enough and doesn’t look fake... And tell your ex you thought you shouldn’t tell him/her about it since you had broken up... At some point, your ex will probably bring up the topic of the break-up, admit your fault very calmly, if you feel you have contributed to the break-up. Your ex will appreciate your honesty, courage, fairness, as well as, the fact that you acknowledge why he/she left. Listen to what your ex has to say without interrupting. Keep the meeting short so your ex is left with a feeling of ‘unfinished business’... Let him/her make the first move, if any... Handled maturely, this will lay the ground for a reunion... Step 8. Sort things out. That one meeting should lead to more meetings. And finally, it should result in your getting your ex back! Once you’re back together, make sure to sit down and discuss the issues that led to the break-up. The idea is to avoid making the same mistakes again. There's no point getting back together only to break-up yet again over the same issues! Remember, no relationship can survive for long if you’re not
making an attempt to understand the other. Open and honest communication is critical. Both of you need to listen to each other’s point of view, respect it and work out solutions. Be patient with each other, learn to compromise and let certain things go... It takes a big heart to forgive and you have to put the ugliness of the break-up behind you in order to make a new beginning. After all, it’s all about starting afresh! All the best...
DEALING WITH A CHEATING EX... Cheating is the worst thing a
partner can do in a relationship. It breaks the trust and leads to a lot of pain and heart ache. Not to mention, what it does to the other’s self-esteem... But that doesn't mean it shouldn't or can’t be forgiven. There are many couples who have patched up after one of the partner’s cheated. If you were the cheating partner, you need to convince your ex that it was a mistake and you regret it. Of course, it will take time and a lot of effort before you can get your ex back into your life. You need to give your ex the space to deal with the fact that you were unfaithful and to cool down a little... Make sure you apologize genuinely, with your heart and soul. The next step is to try to convince your ex partner to listen to you. Apologize for what you have put him/her through and try to convince them that it’ll never happen again. You will find him/her untrusting, which is natural. The trust will have to be earned and rebuilt slowly. Ask your ex to give you the benefit of the doubt, a second chance... And be genuine in your attempts towards a reconciliation. In case your ex cheated on you, you need to seriously figure out if he/she truly deserves a second chance. It has to be a well thought out decision, one taken after some time has passed. And after a lot of advise from sensible, well wishing friends and family. Also do read up on articles related to this issue. When you do take a decision, make sure it’s done with a cool head and it’s a choice you won’t regret... If you decide to take your cheating ex back, make sure that he/she is truly repentant and is willing to
patiently and lovingly build up the trust again. You see, accepting your ex back is only part of the equation. The other part is, trying to forgive him/her and attempting to move on without dredging up the past during each and every argument. It won’t be easy, but some exes and some relationships are well worth the effort. And that’s for you to decide... All the best.
AFTER THE PATCH UP... Getting back together with your ex after a
break-up is great, but there are certain things you need to consider: Deal with each and every issue as a couple. Don’t avoid bringing up something. You can only start on a clean slate if there’s nothing weighing your mind down. • Avoid falling into the same patterns. Each relationship has certain routines or typical issues. Don’t repeat the same mistakes or fall into the same groove. • Work on the trust. No relationship can survive if one partner feels the need to keep checking up on the other. • Sincerely forgive the other for any past indiscretion and the pain it caused you. This can sometimes take a big heart and great effort, but it’s the only way of make things work... • Ensure mutual respect. It’s important to understand each other’s point of view and allow for differences in thinking and behavior. You’re not each other’s clone, so accept and make room for individuality. This also means respecting the other’s needs and desires, and fulfilling them to the best of your ability. • Give time to heal. It’s better to leave a wound alone and let it heal, instead of constantly picking at it... Once all issues have been discussed and amicably resolved, try not to keep bringing them up, especially if it’s concerning your partner’s infidelity. • Learn to be friends again! Sometimes, couples get so heavy, they forget to be friends and become ‘man and woman’... Don’t forget, you were friends first and that comes first.
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Start anew. Have fun together! Do things you used to love doing. And discover new things! Make sure there are light and happy moments. Rebuild the kind of life you want together. Oh! And don’t forget the make-up sex! There’s nothing better than good make-up sex! All the best! And congratulations on winning your ex back!
